Trustworthiness

A friend asked me about being trustworthy in a relationship... here are my thoughts:

the thing that precedes or even negates the need for "trustworthiness" is open communication... but most people aren't able to handle truly open communication, so things start to get hidden, not mentioned, etc... usually because one partner or the other is offended by something that is true... and thus starts a cycle of white lies which usually progress into bigger lies... So for trustworthiness truly to happen both partners have to be able to handle the unvarnished truth... not in a bad or mean way, but usually in a way that destroys one's illusions... and most people aren't willing to "go there"...